This is probably one of the toughest subjects when it comes to
swinging. Bringing up the topic of swinging to your spouse can be
quite tricky, and you must apply proper approach if you plan on doing
it. You can’t really predict your partner’s reactions as well; believe
me when I say they can be quite intimidating sometimes. My wife and I
have the luxury of being able to help some of our friends about
swinging, and one thing I learn about each different case is that you
must ease the subject to your spouse instead of cramming or even
forcing them to understand.
A good rule of thumb is to never push your spouse into swinging unless
he or she feels completely comfortable with the idea. There are cases
where husbands drag their wives into swinging only to see their wives
feeling frustrated and their marriages ended. Swinging is a lifestyle
that requires open, unfiltered, communications at all times. If you
are forcing your spouse into swinging, they will most likely shut you
out and it will be even harder to communicate with them about the
experience.
If you find yourself in a situation where your spouse can’t really
accept the idea of swinging, you may want to invite other swinging
couple to hear their experiences. It will help you and your spouse
understand the lifestyle, but you should never expect the encounter to
change your spouse’s mind instantly. If after the meet your spouse
still feels uncomfortable about the idea, you must not press further
and drop swinging altogether for the sake of your relationship or
marriage. If you really love your spouse, you will not put him or her
through something that will hurt them or break their heart. With
proper approach and some patience, it is not impossible that your
spouse may accept swinging in the near future.